When it comes to the thought of expressing strong emotions I also feel it may be overgeneralizing or misinterpreting INTP reactions. The ESTP wants things to make sense logically, and wants to sort things out. Two thinkers can make for a very informative relationship. As with other things, Ne is adept at envisioning numerous ways in which the relationship could potentially fail. The INTP prefers to leave time for decisions instead of coming to an immediate conclusion. INTPs, in particular, may be terrified of compromising their cherished independence and autonomy.
Unfortunately, many TPs fail to realize that what they are doing is really not nice at all.
INTP, ENTP, ISTP, & ESTP Relationships: Common Roadblocks
When someone acts overly emotional of do not think of them as irrational or stupid. However, these relationships are typically low pressure and tend to have lower conflict levels. They enjoy logically understanding their environment. Unfortunately, many TPs fail to realize that what they are doing is really not nice at all. Namely, they may fail to express their fears and concerns to their partners in order to determine whether they are well-founded. When partners are completely open and honest with each other, the roots of the relationship can extend ever deeper as problems, fears, and frustrations are successfully expressed, analyzed, and integrated. So although they may be highly rational when it comes to T matters, their thinking can veer into the irrational when it comes relationships.